"When mum goes out, I lock the door from the inside... she calls in the letterbox to say goodbye, I leave the lights on in case anyone tries to get in. Mum usually comes home in the night when I am asleep."
- Never leave a young child alone
- Children under 13 years should not be left
- Children are not ready for this amount of responsibility
- Leaving a child alone places them at risk of harm
- It can be a lonely and frightening experience
- Plan who you could contact for emergency care
Common sense and the law
If a child is not ready to be left alone it can be a sad, lonely, frightening and dangerous experience. There are many possible risks, both physical and emotional, which could affect your child in a negative way.
In addition, the level of responsibility which is given to the child to look after themseves to somehow manage whatever may happen is impossible for a younger child. They may say that they do not mind being left and may find it exciting initially, but they cannot fully know the possible risks and how to handle them.
Even the relatively ordinary things that happen in life, such as hunger, a storm, the phone ringing or someone coming to the front door can cause problems. An accident, feeling ill or a power cut may occur and these are not issues that a child could deal with.
If they are alerted, the Police and/or Social Services may take action if they think that a child has been neglected by being left alone. Neglect happens when a parent or carer fails to meet the children's basic needs of food, shelter, security, attenton or protection from exposure to danger.
The NSPCC have issued guidelines advising that children under the age of 13 should not be left alone. While this recommendation does not have the force of law, it is suggested as good practice. Children under this age do not have the maturity to manage the responsibility of being left alone and this may be particularly so if they are physically or learning disabled.
As a young person reaches adolescence, leaving them alone after school, for an evening or during the day is less concerning as long as they are prepared and aware of what to do if they are worried or need anything. So preparation for this is necessary. If your child is 13 or over and you feel he or she has the maturity and ability to deal with this, it is important that they know where you are and who to contact in an emergency.
What to say
|Parents who have limited support. A child who is frequently seen outside and alone for extended periods of time. Childcare arrangements that keep going wrong.
||If there is immediate risk of harm to the child, call the police.
||If you are worried about a child being left alone, talk to the parent, a health visitor, teacher or a social worker.
||Think about shared babysitting and discuss this with neighbours, friends or other parents you have contact with. Find out about After School Clubs and Holiday Play Schemes.
- Social Services Blaenau Gwent 01945 355794
- Gwent Police 01633 838111
- Health Visiting Service 01633 618022
- School Health Nursing Service 01633 618033
- National Council for One Parent Families 0800 018 5026
- NSPCC Bi Lingual Service 0808 100 2524